The mentality of Sexual arousal

Sex is mental. The mind has to be engaged in a pleasurable response, a desire that needs to be fulfilled. The idea of “pleasure” however, is misleading. Sexual tension is released. That relaxation is what causes pleasurable sensations. As sexual tension builds up, the urgency to release that tension also increases. For the normal “Joe” out there, who is usually completely tuned out of sensibility and “normally” stressed out with “busy-ness,” that “release” is the whole source of relaxation. Bodily sensations then are viewed as ultimately a release of sexual tension.

A person who is more in tune with his/her body immediately will feel that such a “release” means a loss of valuable energy which is completely wasted. Practice of these “releases” will assure the birth of a blunt individual who will be unable to transform sexual energy into higher feelings and thus, to “feed” his own emotional and spiritual well being. The paradox is that an individual who practices celibacy without the struggle of renouncing sexuality and who takes care of his emotions as well as his body, will be attractive to others.

Swamis, Gurus and Catholic priests among others struggle to be celibate. For them it is a matter of running away from “temptations.” The word “temptations” implies that inner unresolved struggle, the fight to keep those “devils” inside submerged in the self. There is no a chance to conquer lust and to be celibate in a natural and healthy way unless our feelings have been transformed AND we have learned to transform and circulate our own sexual energy. Spirituality is a key element in this since it will allow an individual to be in tune with his inner self.

Joe “Average,” used to all sorts of noises around him and to be brain washed by the same old propaganda of sexual “release” has a very slim chance to make it in this path. Sensibility is needed. Empathy is needed so you are able to feel someone’s suffering and to empathize with their case. Someone who takes the time to admire the beauty of nature and who takes time and it is not afraid of being alone, who finds silence and inner silence to be enjoyable, that person will certainly make it.

Opposition never conquers. Opposition just opposes. To conquer lust you need to transform yourself first. Spirituality is the path not walked by many, it is the path that leads to self transformation.