The dance of pleasure and pain

Any human being will experience dualistic forces. If you experience pain is because you know what pleasure is.
Pleasure and Pain are complements of each other. One depends of the other. A limited vision of these 2 forces will give us the impression that both are opposites. With this mentality, we will pursue pleasure to the extreme. Sex becomes the highest pleasure in the physical realm. Unfortunately, pain is waiting at the corner to gives us the exact same level, same depth, same intensity but on the other side, the side of pain.
The Buddha, Gautama realized this fact. He devised the “middle way” as a mean to handle the dualities of pleasure and pain. Any desire will bring suffering, he concluded.
A yogi realizes that spirituality is the vehicle that will take a human being beyond the physical reality. This is why, it is important to experience our true self, spiritual self also known as the soul.
In this experience we are pulled out of the physical level. To be beyond experiences is one of the aims of a yogi life. However, these are physical experiences. In the spiritual realm, there is only expression of the self. That expression is manifested through feelings. I feel love, I feel peace, and I feel bliss.
These expressions beyond physical experiences are very powerful. A yogi realizes that sex is located in the realm of physical experiences. It is part of pleasure. To pursue sexual gratification eventually will lead us into suffering. This is very simple to understand.
Likewise, a life of denial of pleasure eventually explodes into indulging of pleasure. Whenever there is denial or avoidance, it is a sign of fear. That fear cannot be conquered unless we have the guts to face it.
Same with sex. There is no point on avoiding or denying, but rather acknowledging its presence. Through acknowledgement there is understanding.
This understanding will take us to the realization of pleasure and pain. The mind is seeking pleasure which cannot be fulfilled by the physical senses. In other words, sex cannot satiate any appetite for pleasurable experiences in the physical world, it is a palliative treatment only. It becomes an addiction, a “fix,” which calms the appetite but never satisfies the person. More is always needed. That pursue of sex as pleasure dulls the mind. The mind becomes trapped in the physical world and duality. The roller coaster of pain and pleasure is considered by most people as “normal.”
A yogi realizes the value of spirituality and the pursue of spiritual values as a way to set himself free from the tyranny of pain and pleasure. This is a different level of understanding which requires a clear mind.