Any path which dictates resistance of some sort; even if that resistance is to something perceived as “bad” or “negative” sooner or later will create a sense of loss in a person (follower of the path) which paradoxically, will increase the power of that which is resisted rather than decrease its power. Take the example of sex lust.
Understanding lust or any other tendency which has been understood as negative for the self has a process which needs to be respected.
In my own experience, I recall realizing first, how much damage sex lust is capable of doing. My feelings weren't the same, the things which I became addicted to because of sex lust were like “masters” dictating my behavior. A life centered in sexual pleasure is a life devoid of meaning, an empty life whose only “heaven” is to feel pleasure if even for a moment and to try to enhance it in every known little way available. That type of life style is surely a very sorry state.
Once that state of realization is experienced at the mental level, then “normally” all religious and dogmatic life styles will bring “fear” as an ingredient to avoid succumbing to the “temptation.” This is a “good” starting point for the “flower” who is starting to grow. That flower needs protection from the environment to survive; however, as soon as the flower feels ready for something different, there is a need to outgrow that fear. In spirituality, the flower must transform itself into a strong tree to survive by its own strength., without dependencies.
In my experience by following a religious path, I was able to recognize the danger of sex lust. After experiencing the benefits of a spiritual life away from that which was considered “normal” at one point in my life, I was able to recognize the value of spirituality and to finally feel goodness, peace and inner strength. In a nutshell, to be free from the slavery of sexuality. It is slavery because sexuality becomes the main objective to fulfill when relating with people. That is the thing which sells, which we think gives happiness, which we think brings “bliss.” However, it is a mirage, a costly illusion.
It is very important to develop our being through feelings. To be able to feel love and tenderness without being sexual. The way I was taught that lesson, was through being completely away from any “distraction,” any temptation.... at that point it was about building love and pure feelings from the heart which cannot develop if we are engaged in the pleasures of the flesh. Love is spiritual in nature; there is no duality of “pleasure” and “pain” in it which are characteristics of a merely physical awareness and experience.
Once I was ready and my feelings were developed, I started feeling beauty and expressing it in a different way. I was more engaged in Nature, in observing Nature and in feeling its beauty.... I began understanding God and the beauty of feeling God.
All of the sudden I began writing poetry and expressing myself in a kinder way towards others, “naturally.”
At that point, my life path took me back to the world of “normal” people. That was the time when I learned massage therapy which is a “Never do it” for “bona fide,” serious spiritual seekers.
Never mind giving a loving massage to the opposite gender. Forget about attractive bodies, that is the “temptation”... I was playing in the field of “temptation.”
Interestingly enough, because I learned to transform sexual feelings into feelings from the heart, my “transition” was good. It was hard. It was a “growing process” but it needed to be conquered, mastered if I wanted to be free from this “temptation,” which later becomes a repression A very strong repression.
That step (to go back to the “normal” world) is not recommended unless we are certain that we have gone through the full journey, and recognized that to master something, we first need to be away from it to become stronger, but eventually we must go back and deal with the issue. There is no timing, but we should know when ready, if ever.
Paradoxically, massage therapy has been a blessing for me. It is an art to give a good loving massage and to be able to express love and pure feelings through touch. That art, which is healing to the self has been distorted by distorted minds highly influenced by sex lust. It is time to recognize that. “Normal” people with “normal” lustful feelings are killing this wonderful art of healing through sex lust.
The sign of the master of the the self is that he is not only able to transform the self, but to transform what he does into something beautiful and helpful to others and to the self, that is to “be” beauty itself.
Friday, July 15, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Sexual Energy
Perhaps it is amazing for the majority of people that energy is the root of our communication. Some people may call that “vibes.”
Sexuality has its own vibration which could be sent in different ways. It is the vibration of people involved which will bring sexual desire.
There could be 2 individuals who are physically attracted to each other, as long as one of them does not send “sexual vibes” things may not happen unless it is forceful and that is why one good reason to label sex as violence; the other one is the “ slow killing” of the self by depleting valuable creative energy from the being.
As a massage therapist, I am exposed to several kinds of energies from individuals. “Normal” people will not be sensitive to this. These energies have the possibility to affect the therapist or the client depending on whose energy field is higher.
In every interaction, we are either giving or taking “vibes” to/from others. It is important to be conscious of this “reality” and to learn to “protect” the self.
Sexual vibes are transmitted in the same way. If someone is passive and receives it, that person will change his behavior if affected.
Language by sound or body language does not have the effect of a vibrational field of an individual who is basically made of energy. Everything is energy, whether we feel it or not.
Many times we could “feel” something different from a particular individual. That is energy. It is not just that someone feels attracted to someone else through a physical characteristic or a skill that someone displays, but basically that attraction could be very intense due to the emotions driven by feelings, the “vibes.”
Until we learn to discriminate and to protect ourselves from those “vibes,” our behavior could be easily changed by coming into contact with another with a stronger “vibe.”
This, you can experiment everyday in your personal contacts with another.
The best protection is to constantly give “energy” by having good wishes and pure feelings from the heart in every interaction, and for this we must be “aware” and practice.
Sexuality has its own vibration which could be sent in different ways. It is the vibration of people involved which will bring sexual desire.
There could be 2 individuals who are physically attracted to each other, as long as one of them does not send “sexual vibes” things may not happen unless it is forceful and that is why one good reason to label sex as violence; the other one is the “ slow killing” of the self by depleting valuable creative energy from the being.
As a massage therapist, I am exposed to several kinds of energies from individuals. “Normal” people will not be sensitive to this. These energies have the possibility to affect the therapist or the client depending on whose energy field is higher.
In every interaction, we are either giving or taking “vibes” to/from others. It is important to be conscious of this “reality” and to learn to “protect” the self.
Sexual vibes are transmitted in the same way. If someone is passive and receives it, that person will change his behavior if affected.
Language by sound or body language does not have the effect of a vibrational field of an individual who is basically made of energy. Everything is energy, whether we feel it or not.
Many times we could “feel” something different from a particular individual. That is energy. It is not just that someone feels attracted to someone else through a physical characteristic or a skill that someone displays, but basically that attraction could be very intense due to the emotions driven by feelings, the “vibes.”
Until we learn to discriminate and to protect ourselves from those “vibes,” our behavior could be easily changed by coming into contact with another with a stronger “vibe.”
This, you can experiment everyday in your personal contacts with another.
The best protection is to constantly give “energy” by having good wishes and pure feelings from the heart in every interaction, and for this we must be “aware” and practice.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Can you love without being sexual?
The straight answer is: YES. As a matter of fact, non sexual love is way deeper than any form of physical pleasure.
How is it expressed? As close or as distant as you would like to be to a person, it could be expressed through the body or through feelings transmitted through the eyes or even through feelings transmitted through thoughts.
As “impossible” as the above description may seem, it is completely possible.
In a “normal” relationship, closeness is expressed through sexuality. The problem with that is that there is an inherent conflict with feelings coming from the soul (spiritual nature) and pleasure experienced through the body. Any form of physical pleasure is dualistic in nature, meaning that suffering will be experienced with the same intensity of pleasure. Moreover, physical pleasure creates an immediate response in our consciousness. That response is expressed as “possession” of that which is “loved.”
Please see the contradiction. Something which is really loved, cannot be possessed. Physical “love” entails a dependency which is proportional to the amount of feelings towards another person. Jealousy, insecurity and hate/love emotional outbursts are the sign of physical “love.”
Basically, sexuality creates a “bond” or dependency towards another if there is any feelings of closeness in between. There is a mixture of physical bondage with spiritual feelings.
The problem becomes even greater as most individuals do not know what spiritual love is. For most love means the experience of lust (for another body) combined with emotional attachment...then, if sexual pleasure is added into the mix, the result is confusion.
Love. Real love is related with feelings. Feelings are of spiritual nature alone. Love is beyond duality. Love doesn't give pleasure nor pain. Love is completely fulfilling in itself without anyone's approval or disapproval. There is no possibility to experience “real” love unless we separate ourselves from lustful sexuality and its bondage of attachment. Otherwise, the physical “urges” will take precedence over spirituality since most individuals have not been trained in spiritual practices.
This means that for the immense majority of people, the second chakra will take precedence over the fourth one (heart) as most individuals express themselves through the lower chakras only ( Third and
below) rather than using the 4th (heart) and above.
Physically speaking men and women express duality and the search for completion, for unity. Both energies should be complementary of each other, however; that is not the case in a high percentage of individuals. That is why, usually relationships are set up with one person above the other, a dominant and a passive one. That is way out balance, not complementary.
Physically speaking, women have greater capacity of sexuality than men. This fact was studied by Taoists. Their answer to the problem was for a man to retain its semen for all sexual relationships and to be able to release that energy at will in limited occasions. This requires training. The aim in this Taoist type of sexuality is to “satiated women” and for men to gain subtle energies through sexuality.
The idea of men having several partners then, became part of the Taoist system. It is important to note, that this method became very important for the Chinese “higher ups” for they used to have many wives and therefore, their vitality was suffering tremendously by releasing precious energy every time with every partner.
Nowadays, the issue is still there. This Taoist method has its problem as well. Since it deals with “techniques” of pleasuring a sexual partner (duality,) spiritual love is out. By placing all importance on the sexual, pleasurable aspect and techniques; spiritual love, non-dual love is forgotten.
Celibacy is the path to experience fulfillment, detachment and deep love from the heart. Unfortunately, this path is not for everyone, for it requires more than anything; sensibility to beauty and a deep development of feelings which not everyone has taken the time to develop.
Real love has nothing to do with “sweaty passion.” It has nothing to do with “noisy pleasure.” It has nothing to do with criminal lustful eyes or killing the self for the sake of pleasure.
Real love is experienced as care, tenderness, understanding and constantly nurturing a relationship... of course, the keyword is "constantly"....
How is it expressed? As close or as distant as you would like to be to a person, it could be expressed through the body or through feelings transmitted through the eyes or even through feelings transmitted through thoughts.
As “impossible” as the above description may seem, it is completely possible.
In a “normal” relationship, closeness is expressed through sexuality. The problem with that is that there is an inherent conflict with feelings coming from the soul (spiritual nature) and pleasure experienced through the body. Any form of physical pleasure is dualistic in nature, meaning that suffering will be experienced with the same intensity of pleasure. Moreover, physical pleasure creates an immediate response in our consciousness. That response is expressed as “possession” of that which is “loved.”
Please see the contradiction. Something which is really loved, cannot be possessed. Physical “love” entails a dependency which is proportional to the amount of feelings towards another person. Jealousy, insecurity and hate/love emotional outbursts are the sign of physical “love.”
Basically, sexuality creates a “bond” or dependency towards another if there is any feelings of closeness in between. There is a mixture of physical bondage with spiritual feelings.
The problem becomes even greater as most individuals do not know what spiritual love is. For most love means the experience of lust (for another body) combined with emotional attachment...then, if sexual pleasure is added into the mix, the result is confusion.
Love. Real love is related with feelings. Feelings are of spiritual nature alone. Love is beyond duality. Love doesn't give pleasure nor pain. Love is completely fulfilling in itself without anyone's approval or disapproval. There is no possibility to experience “real” love unless we separate ourselves from lustful sexuality and its bondage of attachment. Otherwise, the physical “urges” will take precedence over spirituality since most individuals have not been trained in spiritual practices.
This means that for the immense majority of people, the second chakra will take precedence over the fourth one (heart) as most individuals express themselves through the lower chakras only ( Third and
below) rather than using the 4th (heart) and above.
Physically speaking men and women express duality and the search for completion, for unity. Both energies should be complementary of each other, however; that is not the case in a high percentage of individuals. That is why, usually relationships are set up with one person above the other, a dominant and a passive one. That is way out balance, not complementary.
Physically speaking, women have greater capacity of sexuality than men. This fact was studied by Taoists. Their answer to the problem was for a man to retain its semen for all sexual relationships and to be able to release that energy at will in limited occasions. This requires training. The aim in this Taoist type of sexuality is to “satiated women” and for men to gain subtle energies through sexuality.
The idea of men having several partners then, became part of the Taoist system. It is important to note, that this method became very important for the Chinese “higher ups” for they used to have many wives and therefore, their vitality was suffering tremendously by releasing precious energy every time with every partner.
Nowadays, the issue is still there. This Taoist method has its problem as well. Since it deals with “techniques” of pleasuring a sexual partner (duality,) spiritual love is out. By placing all importance on the sexual, pleasurable aspect and techniques; spiritual love, non-dual love is forgotten.
Celibacy is the path to experience fulfillment, detachment and deep love from the heart. Unfortunately, this path is not for everyone, for it requires more than anything; sensibility to beauty and a deep development of feelings which not everyone has taken the time to develop.
Real love has nothing to do with “sweaty passion.” It has nothing to do with “noisy pleasure.” It has nothing to do with criminal lustful eyes or killing the self for the sake of pleasure.
Real love is experienced as care, tenderness, understanding and constantly nurturing a relationship... of course, the keyword is "constantly"....
Monday, June 20, 2011
Love in the “cause and effect” movie of actions.
In the topic of emotions, there is one powerful emotion which most everyone is trying to run away from. That is to experience loneliness. The price of not finding a suitable person is defined as loneliness. At least that is the way most would think.
Loneliness is such a dreaded emotion that many are willing to put up with anyone or anything even if that means “hell” for them; as long as they do not feel alone.
The opposite of that loneliness is to have company, although physical company is the only extent that most will experience.
Relationships in our societies are based on the premise of avoiding loneliness at any price.
From a pure spiritual perspective, the experience of loneliness means to face our own reality of feeling disconnected to be connected with our own self and from this position to regain a new connection with others, by being “centered” first. Knowing our own “center” allows us to go back to it when feeling out of balance.
Interestingly, it is impossible to live without connections with other beings, however; the sensation of loneliness is all pervading as long as it does not match our “expectation” of what “should be.”
That expectation usually does not match our own needs but, it is tinted with external voices, opinions and traditions which pressure the individual into something which they may not be ready to face.
It is impossible to live happily in a relationship with another, unless we are truly self sufficient and have been able to live with our own selves, in a few words; to be able to transform that loneliness into being alone, into experiencing the beauty of being aware of the self in all dimensions: likes, dislikes, quirks, vices, virtues, feelings and tendencies. That awareness brings knowledge about the self as if I am looking at another individual in a detached way and through that objective knowledge, I could learn to relate in proper terms with another.
Death of a loved one or even termination of a “relationship” marks that space to test the waters of our ability to be alone. Without this practice, loneliness, fear, anguish, desperation and even guilt will surface and a person without inner strenght will rush into another relationship, just to forget the pain and anguish produced by the end of the previous one. This is a sour discovery of not knowing what love is, but rather attachment and emotional dependency to another. Sort of like drinking alcohol to forget. Sort of like indulging in different pleasurable experiences to forget our own self inflicted sorrow.
That sorrow escalates according to the same intensity of the pleasure or happiness that a particular relationship has brought into our lives. This is knowledge of duality, of the eternal opposites which will manifest sooner or later.
Similarly, because we live in a web of relationships, the person which we meet, the one that we get to know, that we get to like or dislike, all of those magical things which appear to be “marvelous” and “enchanting” are just consequences of that principle of “cause and effect.” It surely will be bait ready to be eaten...again.
Whatever we have done before will self perpetuate in our own lives as long as we remain the same. Notice that I don't write :”as long as we keep doing the same,” but rather “being the same.” Doing is the consequence of being. We do wrong if our weaknesses overtake our values/virtues in a particular situation.
Therefore, the root cause of our inability to deal with a web of bondage of relationships in life goes back to our inability to know honestly our own self. That ability comes when living in a space of “loneliness.” Sometimes that which we fear, is the thing that we need the most.
Loneliness is such a dreaded emotion that many are willing to put up with anyone or anything even if that means “hell” for them; as long as they do not feel alone.
The opposite of that loneliness is to have company, although physical company is the only extent that most will experience.
Relationships in our societies are based on the premise of avoiding loneliness at any price.
From a pure spiritual perspective, the experience of loneliness means to face our own reality of feeling disconnected to be connected with our own self and from this position to regain a new connection with others, by being “centered” first. Knowing our own “center” allows us to go back to it when feeling out of balance.
Interestingly, it is impossible to live without connections with other beings, however; the sensation of loneliness is all pervading as long as it does not match our “expectation” of what “should be.”
That expectation usually does not match our own needs but, it is tinted with external voices, opinions and traditions which pressure the individual into something which they may not be ready to face.
It is impossible to live happily in a relationship with another, unless we are truly self sufficient and have been able to live with our own selves, in a few words; to be able to transform that loneliness into being alone, into experiencing the beauty of being aware of the self in all dimensions: likes, dislikes, quirks, vices, virtues, feelings and tendencies. That awareness brings knowledge about the self as if I am looking at another individual in a detached way and through that objective knowledge, I could learn to relate in proper terms with another.
Death of a loved one or even termination of a “relationship” marks that space to test the waters of our ability to be alone. Without this practice, loneliness, fear, anguish, desperation and even guilt will surface and a person without inner strenght will rush into another relationship, just to forget the pain and anguish produced by the end of the previous one. This is a sour discovery of not knowing what love is, but rather attachment and emotional dependency to another. Sort of like drinking alcohol to forget. Sort of like indulging in different pleasurable experiences to forget our own self inflicted sorrow.
That sorrow escalates according to the same intensity of the pleasure or happiness that a particular relationship has brought into our lives. This is knowledge of duality, of the eternal opposites which will manifest sooner or later.
Similarly, because we live in a web of relationships, the person which we meet, the one that we get to know, that we get to like or dislike, all of those magical things which appear to be “marvelous” and “enchanting” are just consequences of that principle of “cause and effect.” It surely will be bait ready to be eaten...again.
Whatever we have done before will self perpetuate in our own lives as long as we remain the same. Notice that I don't write :”as long as we keep doing the same,” but rather “being the same.” Doing is the consequence of being. We do wrong if our weaknesses overtake our values/virtues in a particular situation.
Therefore, the root cause of our inability to deal with a web of bondage of relationships in life goes back to our inability to know honestly our own self. That ability comes when living in a space of “loneliness.” Sometimes that which we fear, is the thing that we need the most.
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
On love and relationships
Many times fulfillment is found when we find another (??)... Paradoxically, that is far from fulfillment.
Finding another for company could be constructive once we are at ease with our own selves, once loneliness is completely gone, not through others but in "self-relationship." This is a basic axiom of finding spirituality in our life. Without a closer look "inside" we cannot pretend to reach the "outside" with edification in our lives. Society in general, and its "laws" and traditions dictates that "togetherness" is in fact necessary. A "couple" is needed to reproduce and to care for its own off-springs, sort of what animals do in their own hierarchical structure. However, ego, lust, anger and other economically exploited weaknesses belong to humans. That lack of ego in animals allows them to live in a very ordained way for self preservation of their own species. That structure allows them to survive.... unless the egotistical human being appears in their path.
Two human beings displaying ego, lust, anger and attachment could never find what love is; for love is selfless. There is no motive to it. No transaction. No "kickback."
Western human beings in general believe in "falling in love," (something unknown to other cultures) and in making such a state to last for a lifetime. That is an illusion. "Falling in love" does not mean a lasting relationship. Commitment means a lasting relationship, however; commitment is not necessarily related with "falling in love" but perhaps surprisingly, is related with love. "True" love.
Commitment is a mature way of relating. It is no longer about "me" and my needs which need to be fulfilled by "you." Nor about "you" being before "me." Commitment places value in a relationship and what it implies to keep it alive. A relationship means "togetherness" and in that "individuality" is merged. Commitment demonstrates care. It is about actions. It is about walking our own talk.
There cannot be commitment to another unless we find meaning in committing to our own selves first. That commitment entails the pursue of those values which enhances our own life and the the lives of others. That is called sometimes, self-respect. It is through the nourishing soil of self-respect how its fruit, love; appears.
The experience of love in our lives brings the ideal of beauty close to our hearts. Those feelings become our own "fuel" our own self fulfillment and magically; enlighten the path of others touched by that light. Love transcends "me" to reach others, when "me" is no longer there.
Finding another for company could be constructive once we are at ease with our own selves, once loneliness is completely gone, not through others but in "self-relationship." This is a basic axiom of finding spirituality in our life. Without a closer look "inside" we cannot pretend to reach the "outside" with edification in our lives. Society in general, and its "laws" and traditions dictates that "togetherness" is in fact necessary. A "couple" is needed to reproduce and to care for its own off-springs, sort of what animals do in their own hierarchical structure. However, ego, lust, anger and other economically exploited weaknesses belong to humans. That lack of ego in animals allows them to live in a very ordained way for self preservation of their own species. That structure allows them to survive.... unless the egotistical human being appears in their path.
Two human beings displaying ego, lust, anger and attachment could never find what love is; for love is selfless. There is no motive to it. No transaction. No "kickback."
Western human beings in general believe in "falling in love," (something unknown to other cultures) and in making such a state to last for a lifetime. That is an illusion. "Falling in love" does not mean a lasting relationship. Commitment means a lasting relationship, however; commitment is not necessarily related with "falling in love" but perhaps surprisingly, is related with love. "True" love.
Commitment is a mature way of relating. It is no longer about "me" and my needs which need to be fulfilled by "you." Nor about "you" being before "me." Commitment places value in a relationship and what it implies to keep it alive. A relationship means "togetherness" and in that "individuality" is merged. Commitment demonstrates care. It is about actions. It is about walking our own talk.
There cannot be commitment to another unless we find meaning in committing to our own selves first. That commitment entails the pursue of those values which enhances our own life and the the lives of others. That is called sometimes, self-respect. It is through the nourishing soil of self-respect how its fruit, love; appears.
The experience of love in our lives brings the ideal of beauty close to our hearts. Those feelings become our own "fuel" our own self fulfillment and magically; enlighten the path of others touched by that light. Love transcends "me" to reach others, when "me" is no longer there.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
The addiction of sex lust
Lust has many ways of expression through different senses. Lust is usually referred as the "greatest enemy."
For a "normal" individual, lust is not a "vice." It is a "natural" way to demonstrate "love." That "natural love" sooner or later will be mixed with desire, jealousy and possessiveness; because there is a physical "high" called pleasure that is associated with "sex lust."
That physical pleasure when mixed with possessiveness, physical attraction and the need to feel complete with another creates an addiction that it is hard to overcome.
That addiction, that necessity is like a powerful drug which blocks any subtlety. It blocks our path to complete freedom. Neediness in another is created which needs to be fulfilled and thus, our senses become more attached to a physical being, their emotions and desires. Lust then becomes attachment and that attachment could become a source of ego, if you are the dominant part of the "relationship."
Yes..it is a "master and servant" game. Always someone is the master and the other a servant, even though these roles could change; it is the same game. There is no equality in the long run. That holds true for even the most "loving" relationship at this time.
Our society has made those ingredients to appear as "highly desirable." They call it "romantic love," love or just plain lust.
Since matter is dualistic, the price for pleasure is high.
Also, there is the issue with "newness." The "object of desire" loses its value once it is possessed. Once sex lust becomes a routine, there is a need for change to "enhance the experience." This is how adultery usually happens. The mind drifts away from the "relationship" searching for a new "high." Then, the body follows and then the action happens....or it could be repressed which causes resentment and suffering….hate in its deeper moments.
Most humans have tried to "control" or “regulate” sex lust by different means because of their perceived negative effects to society but the "drug" is quite strong. So, most if not all, have failed in one way or another.
Separation of genders was the answer. Extreme forms of repression or suppression of the intrinsic human need to feel "complete" through a relationship with another... and even extreme things as blinding someone or damaging genital organs, to the “mild” use of contraceptives are in fashion when finally society realized that will power was no longer “in vogue” in a “yo-yo” society like ours.
Sex lust is conquered once sexual energy is transferred into feelings. Once the energy accumulated in the lower chakras (which stays there and need to be released) is moved through the use of feelings from the heart. Those feelings are related with our vision with a person.
That vision needs to be paired with pure feelings and those feelings need to be sent to that person. It is all about transferring energy. This is the practical use of "good feelings and pure wishes."
If this step hasn’t been mastered, the thought of "sex-lust" will linger in the intellect until a profound realization of the implications of this act is realized.
Once we become honest with ourselves and see that we cannot be engaged into sex lust anymore because there is "suffering disguised" (jealousy, possessiveness, neediness) and the perception that our life energy is depleted, then at that point; sex lust is over in the mind. Our will power takes over. Once our feelings are developed and transmute sexual energy, then sex lust is over from our being. The “drug” effect is over. We are free.
For a "normal" individual, lust is not a "vice." It is a "natural" way to demonstrate "love." That "natural love" sooner or later will be mixed with desire, jealousy and possessiveness; because there is a physical "high" called pleasure that is associated with "sex lust."
That physical pleasure when mixed with possessiveness, physical attraction and the need to feel complete with another creates an addiction that it is hard to overcome.
That addiction, that necessity is like a powerful drug which blocks any subtlety. It blocks our path to complete freedom. Neediness in another is created which needs to be fulfilled and thus, our senses become more attached to a physical being, their emotions and desires. Lust then becomes attachment and that attachment could become a source of ego, if you are the dominant part of the "relationship."
Yes..it is a "master and servant" game. Always someone is the master and the other a servant, even though these roles could change; it is the same game. There is no equality in the long run. That holds true for even the most "loving" relationship at this time.
Our society has made those ingredients to appear as "highly desirable." They call it "romantic love," love or just plain lust.
Since matter is dualistic, the price for pleasure is high.
Also, there is the issue with "newness." The "object of desire" loses its value once it is possessed. Once sex lust becomes a routine, there is a need for change to "enhance the experience." This is how adultery usually happens. The mind drifts away from the "relationship" searching for a new "high." Then, the body follows and then the action happens....or it could be repressed which causes resentment and suffering….hate in its deeper moments.
Most humans have tried to "control" or “regulate” sex lust by different means because of their perceived negative effects to society but the "drug" is quite strong. So, most if not all, have failed in one way or another.
Separation of genders was the answer. Extreme forms of repression or suppression of the intrinsic human need to feel "complete" through a relationship with another... and even extreme things as blinding someone or damaging genital organs, to the “mild” use of contraceptives are in fashion when finally society realized that will power was no longer “in vogue” in a “yo-yo” society like ours.
Sex lust is conquered once sexual energy is transferred into feelings. Once the energy accumulated in the lower chakras (which stays there and need to be released) is moved through the use of feelings from the heart. Those feelings are related with our vision with a person.
That vision needs to be paired with pure feelings and those feelings need to be sent to that person. It is all about transferring energy. This is the practical use of "good feelings and pure wishes."
If this step hasn’t been mastered, the thought of "sex-lust" will linger in the intellect until a profound realization of the implications of this act is realized.
Once we become honest with ourselves and see that we cannot be engaged into sex lust anymore because there is "suffering disguised" (jealousy, possessiveness, neediness) and the perception that our life energy is depleted, then at that point; sex lust is over in the mind. Our will power takes over. Once our feelings are developed and transmute sexual energy, then sex lust is over from our being. The “drug” effect is over. We are free.
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